Caption: Salem the Sassiest Cat always gives the best feedback obtained from icanhas.cheezburger.com
As someone who thrives on feedback (my code for saying I am a total people pleaser to a fault), I enjoyed reading the articles over productive feedback. The first article I read was What Kinds of Messages Help Kids Grow? which discussed how using growth-mindset strategies for feedback/praise can benefit a child during the developmental stages of their lives. It touched on the words they use when providing feedback can alter how a kid responds to good feedback and how using the word "yet" will motivate them to keep working hard. This is something I am trying to implement in my life. For example, I was studying for French and I just wasn't getting it, but I kept telling myself "I'm not understanding it yet?" It keeps me a little more motivated to continue studying.
The other article I read was The Trouble with “Amazing”: Giving Praise that Matters. I really enjoyed this post. The reasons were sound and made sense, especially the second one. Amazing is unspecific. I really relate to her college friend asking "why am I pretty?" because that is something I totally do when people give me a vague compliment. I like specific compliments, so if I do receive one that feels sort of generic it usually makes me wonder:
"Do they really think I'm amazing or are they just being polite?"
Receiving specific feedback like
"Oh your shoes are amazing!" or "I really enjoyed your poster. The colors you chose were amazing."
are more helpful and rewarding.
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